The Back Story of our marriage

In November 2002, before my Grandfather died, he told me I should marry, not to a woman with children. His own father had done this and the sons from the first marriage made his father’s life difficult.

Considering my grandfather’s advice for several months after he had died, at my age finding a woman without children here would be almost impossible, so I thought it was time to pay more attention to the women of Asia, who I always found attractive, and the Philippines especially.

I surfed the Net looking for a good introduction web site for Asian women. I found Filipinaheart.com.

I had written to foreign women in the past, and at that time my mind was open to whatever what might happen, but now I was determined to marry a good woman.

I looked at the filipinaheart.com and saw they were the most beautiful, and knew they were all good women, so I joined for 1 month to see what happened.

I sent emails to the girls that I was attracted to, and Amelia stood out as beautiful and everything I was looking for, and her name was already in my family history because my late grandfather had a Aunt Amelia, and his Grandmother and Great Grand mother also named Amelia. It was pretty fair to say that the combination of all these facts made me want Amelia from the start.

Many girls sent messages of interest to me, and I must have had about 50 women friendly with me, but Amelia said she already had a male friend. I was very disappointed to hear this.

While not giving up all hope of getting Amelia, I was giving my attention to another girl, but in the meantime when Amelia asked me for advice about her friend, I tried to help her. Eventually my help lead to her giving up on her friend because he had another female friend too, and Amelia started showing attention to me, which I was very please with even although I had discussed a future with another Filipina, and I was already planning to met her.

Quickly Amelia with her poems and other conversation convinced me the she was still the one I wanted, and more than ever. When I realised this I prepared the other girl for the end to our romantic ideas together. I must have done it well because there is no ill feeling and we are still friends.

At this time I proposed marriage to Amelia, but because I was scared that I was moving too quickly or she would reject my proposal, I said ”If  I thought you would marry me I would propose now”.

She said she would marry me if that was a proposal of marriage.

Amelia want to hear my voice and kept asking me to call her.

But because I called an Italian woman I had been writing to and the call was so confused and terrible I was scared to do that again, and maybe damage our relationship, but I eventually did, and I called her two or 3 times a day.

We discussed wedding plans and she wanted the same wedding arrangements that her sister had in May 2003, and it only cost £2000. I sent the money without fear or a second thought and until I arrived in Manila in September, the Wedding was being prepared.

When I arrived in Manila in September, even now I wonder how we were allowed such a perfect meeting, on our first visit. Two week later on 12^th October 2003 we both said “I do”.

Now it is February 2005 and and Amelia and I were permanently re-united in October 2004, after a hard year dealing with the British Embassy, over her visa. Amelia now has a kitten named Pifty.